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Daily Life

In the beginning Loving-kindness needs to be really strong, like a fully blazing fire, because the mind tends to be distracted easily.

Also, at the beginning sometimes we do our things during the day and mindfulness slips a little bit. We are dragged into these more automatic states of mind. To really break away from these automatic reactions, or automatic mind goings, sometimes we need a bit of a stronger Loving-kindness feeling, at the beginning. So that our mind can really feel it, it’s really tangible and really embodied also.

But if someone holds on to this really strong feeling, this becomes a kind of force, it becomes a hindrance in itself, if there is no allowing it to fade after a while.

Some people might try too hard to really make it strong all the time, which is not a bad thing either, but it might become a bit more difficult. It’s good to know that during the meditation, maybe after half an hour, the feeling will start to stick a little bit more, and in fact we do want to allow it to fade a little bit and become more established.

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It’s very similar, but the feeling that we have for someone is contained, channeled into this one person. That is wonderful, that is great, there is very little difference. I would say though that to compare it would be like comparing it to a flower that’s just budding. You see the beauty just in one little place here [the bud]. It’s just there.

But the Loving-kindness in the meditation that we’re practicing, and that the Buddha taught, is like full bloom; there is no restriction, it’s completely open. This kind of Loving-kindness, that is fully open, also supports this kind of love that we have for loved ones.

 Slowly we start to understand how this feeling works, how the mind works, and how it can be fully mature, so that this feeling can in fact feed the love that we have for the people that we already love.

It also has a chance to open up and not only contingent to a fistful of people, but to all living beings around us. The Buddha in fact said that to have loved, to experience love and Loving-kindness for someone in particular is very wholesome, but to develop Loving-kindness for all living beings in all directions is some of the highest merit that a human being can do.

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Yes exactly, there’s some wise words and I can only agree.

To have this feeling of love for the people that we love, is truly wonderful, but sometimes it comes with other things, and that’s where the trick is.

 That’s why Loving-kindness to all living beings, is such a wholesome thing to develop. We tend to only look at things in the close-up view, and sometimes that doesn’t allow us to see the whole field of perception of what’s really happening. To develop this really broad expansive awareness, is truly also the Buddha’s teaching; opening up the mind and allowing a clear bright and open awareness.

Also, continuously practicing in this way, we start to see the little tendencies in the mind, that lie behind these habits that we have sometimes. This is another reason why to develop the mind in this way.

 In fact, this is simply to grow into more love and more Compassion, so that we can be an even better generator of Loving-kindness for the people around us.

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Meditation

Don’t worry! In the beginning, it can be difficult or awkward to bring up that warm, glowing feeling of Loving-kindness. 

These videos may help you to bring this feeling of Loving-kindness back into your meditation:

The feeling doesn’t need to be very strong; a little spark is enough! If you look into the eyes of a baby, do you need to try to feel love? Is it hard to feel it while playing with a puppy? Or while sitting on a bench in a park, on a pleasant day, watching people go by?

Develop this feeling one sit at a time and you will be going down the Buddha’s Noble Eightfold Path. You use the Brahma Viharas to become awakened. Developing a smile will make this practice much easier.

For more information, read this helpful article:

https://www.dhammasukha.org/cant-find-the-feeling.html

Category: Meditation

We recommend doing Metta; it is much faster, and more pleasant than breathing meditation. Listen to bhante Vimalaramsi’s explanation:

Comparing Metta with breathing meditation

If you have practiced Breath or Anapanasati before, it is likely you didn’t practice it the way we teach it. We teach it using the 6R’s, and the Relax step, which is fundamentally different. It is in line with what the Buddha described as Right Effort.

We prefer people to learn a new type of meditation. That way, you don’t run the risk of accidentally falling back into old habits of suppressing hindrances. Please, don’t even consider breath. 

According to Bhante Vimalaramsi, it is almost unheard of if people truly can’t practice Metta meditation. Just stay with Metta – It takes a little bit of practice, that is all.

And besides, this world could do with a bit more Loving-kindness.

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Category: Meditation

It doesn’t have to be strong – it just needs to be continuous. 

Make sure you 6R whenever your mind wanders.  So, whenever you forgot you were actually meditating.

Every time you use the 6R’s, the feeling of Metta will be able to grow, as the mind will continue to calm down.

Whether strong or weak, just watch mindfully for the moment the mind starts to wander. 

 The longer you can stay on your object, the stronger the feeling usually becomes. 

 Don’t push, just 6R when needed.

Category: Meditation

No, please don’t do that. Let go of the breath completely, as this will help you to get deeper into the meditation. You observe the feeling of Loving-kindness.

Later on you won’t even notice the breath.

Just apply the 6R’s whenever your mind goes to the breath. Stay with only the feeling.

Category: Meditation

In the beginning Loving-kindness needs to be really strong, like a fully blazing fire, because the mind tends to be distracted easily.

Also, at the beginning sometimes we do our things during the day and mindfulness slips a little bit. We are dragged into these more automatic states of mind. To really break away from these automatic reactions, or automatic mind goings, sometimes we need a bit of a stronger Loving-kindness feeling, at the beginning. So that our mind can really feel it, it’s really tangible and really embodied also.

But if someone holds on to this really strong feeling, this becomes a kind of force, it becomes a hindrance in itself, if there is no allowing it to fade after a while.

Some people might try too hard to really make it strong all the time, which is not a bad thing either, but it might become a bit more difficult. It’s good to know that during the meditation, maybe after half an hour, the feeling will start to stick a little bit more, and in fact we do want to allow it to fade a little bit and become more established.

Watch it here

Categories: Daily Life, Meditation

It’s very similar, but the feeling that we have for someone is contained, channeled into this one person. That is wonderful, that is great, there is very little difference. I would say though that to compare it would be like comparing it to a flower that’s just budding. You see the beauty just in one little place here [the bud]. It’s just there.

But the Loving-kindness in the meditation that we’re practicing, and that the Buddha taught, is like full bloom; there is no restriction, it’s completely open. This kind of Loving-kindness, that is fully open, also supports this kind of love that we have for loved ones.

 Slowly we start to understand how this feeling works, how the mind works, and how it can be fully mature, so that this feeling can in fact feed the love that we have for the people that we already love.

It also has a chance to open up and not only contingent to a fistful of people, but to all living beings around us. The Buddha in fact said that to have loved, to experience love and Loving-kindness for someone in particular is very wholesome, but to develop Loving-kindness for all living beings in all directions is some of the highest merit that a human being can do.

Watch it here

Category: Daily Life

Yes exactly, there’s some wise words and I can only agree.

To have this feeling of love for the people that we love, is truly wonderful, but sometimes it comes with other things, and that’s where the trick is.

 That’s why Loving-kindness to all living beings, is such a wholesome thing to develop. We tend to only look at things in the close-up view, and sometimes that doesn’t allow us to see the whole field of perception of what’s really happening. To develop this really broad expansive awareness, is truly also the Buddha’s teaching; opening up the mind and allowing a clear bright and open awareness.

Also, continuously practicing in this way, we start to see the little tendencies in the mind, that lie behind these habits that we have sometimes. This is another reason why to develop the mind in this way.

 In fact, this is simply to grow into more love and more Compassion, so that we can be an even better generator of Loving-kindness for the people around us.

Watch it here

Category: Daily Life

That’s where it’s coming from, yes. This is how is how they were discovered, and they were put into this sequence because of the Ānāpānasati Sutta.

The 6R’s are to Recognize, to Release, to Relax, to Re-smile and to Return to the object of meditation. This object is usually Metta, or one of the other Brahma Viharas; Compassion, Joy or Calm.

The origin, the most tangible proof that we have, that the Buddha taught to Relax this tension in the mind and in the body, is in that sutta. The sankharas of the mind, of the body – and this is being interpreted in a lot of ways – sankhara is simply just things that arise. Processes within the body and within the mind.

What are the bodily processes? Well, anything that is tension, anything that arises in the mind also, or any movement. Movement comes with friction, friction comes with tension, so the 6R’s originate from that. This is a complete Path of practice that is available to us, and that is quite pristine in itself.

We can also simply practice the Loving-kindness, the Brahma Viharas; the boundless Love, boundless Compassion, boundless Joy, boundless Calm in this way. They are truly wonderful, they are like a boost. Like the highway to Nibbana, especially at the beginning. So, it’s very good to develop them. That’s why the Buddha usually would teach the Brahma Viharas first, and then explain awareness of the breath with the breath.

Sometimes, people will not want to practice the other methods, if they start with that one [Ānāpānasati], because it is – we talked about it in this very sutta – literally practicing the four Resting Places of Awareness, the Satipaṭṭhānas. These four are there all the time. So, there is no intention whatsoever, or force, required, or energy being put to generate these states. The Loving-kindness has to come with a little bit of effort, because we have to generate that. Loving-kindness is a conditioned state, and same for the rest of the Brahma Viharas, even though they become much more subtle.

The whole of the beauty of these four Satipaṭṭhānas is that they are completely effortless, they come completely naturally. It is by letting go of everything, that we are completely aware of them. Sati sampajañña – full awareness – and an awareness of them.

When we start practicing in this way, the mind really enjoys this very deep calm. So, people are not really likely to want to start generating Metta.

Here we saw in this very sutta – and that is another reason why i read this one tonight -that it explains many of the sections of the Buddha’s teaching. For example, the bodhipakkhiyā dhamma, the 37 Requisites of Awakening, are all tools for us, that we can develop. That will help us to be more all-around meditators, I could say. Or all-around better people. With the Metta – when we practice the Brahma Viharas first – the mind becomes very wholesome, very quickly. And it becomes a second nature to respond with Love, with Compassion, with Sympathetic Joy, or Calm. This will help us in many situations, and this will support awareness- our practice of using the breath as a reminder, Ānāpānasati. This is all strengthening and supporting itself. In fact, the word Dhamma comes from the root dha, which means that which supports. That’s what we’re practicing.

The monks have stands for their bowls, there’s a rule we can’t put our bowls on the ground, it has to be on a stand. And there is a wonderful sutta, where the Buddha says that the stand of the mind is this Aryan Eightfold Path. So, we can say basically for all of these practices; they are the stand for the mind, because otherwise the mind just flows. It just goes wherever it wants and we prop it up, supporting it.

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