Loving someone comes along with expectations, is this contrary to Loving-kindness?
Yes exactly, there’s some wise words and I can only agree.
To have this feeling of love for the people that we love, is truly wonderful, but sometimes it comes with other things, and that’s where the trick is.
That’s why Loving-kindness to all living beings, is such a wholesome thing to develop. We tend to only look at things in the close-up view, and sometimes that doesn’t allow us to see the whole field of perception of what’s really happening. To develop this really broad expansive awareness, is truly also the Buddha’s teaching; opening up the mind and allowing a clear bright and open awareness.
Also, continuously practicing in this way, we start to see the little tendencies in the mind, that lie behind these habits that we have sometimes. This is another reason why to develop the mind in this way.
In fact, this is simply to grow into more love and more Compassion, so that we can be an even better generator of Loving-kindness for the people around us.